I just can't stand when people always have to play the victim. It makes me so angry. When will they grow up and take responsibility for themselves? I have a friend who's ex just keeps hounding him. He's incredibly heartbroken and this girl keeps complaining when she's the one messing up. She's got all these different people ganging up on my buddy, telling him to back off. It's unfair.
She's amazingly stoic and cold. Somehow, my friend sees warmth in her and I guess that's fine. I don't know the girl personally. But I know she's got my friend stuck in Karpman's Drama Triangle. My friend is the persecutor, she's the victim, and everyone who's defending her are the rescuers.
It's a hard web to break and I've been pushing my friend to just drop it all. She's obviously not worth this trouble (the kid loses sleep, gets headaches and stomach aches, all for an ungrateful, indecisive girl). I don't understand why he can't see it. But if he doesn't leave, this triangle will remain. And it's the triangle of all dysfunctional relationships. And sometimes I see the roles change, pulling me into the triangle. My friend is the victim, his ex is the persecutor, and I become the rescuer.
I don't have a problem with that. It becomes tedious to keep spoon feeding my friend, for him to just spit my advice up and let it dribble down his chin. I don't know. I just want what's best for him.
Even if he can't see it in 20/20 vision.
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